Under investigation for, accused of, sexual offending.

Under investigation for, accused of, sexual offending.

If you, or someone close to you, has been accused of, or is under investigation for, sexual offending it can be a very isolating and frightening time. There is limited support for those in this position, and few who understand that life experiences and circumstances which shape us may lead individuals down a path they never thought they’d take.

I have been working with clients in this situation – who are either under investigation for, or accused of, sexual offending or struggling with sexual or pornographic addictions, or who are close to and supporting someone who is experiencing this situation – for many years.

If you are looking for a safe space to speak, without judgement or criticism, to learn how to navigate through the trauma of this experience, and to process the past traumas or experiences which may have led you to this place, I can help.

Registered with both ATSAC www.atasc.org.uk (The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity) and StopSo www.stopso.org.uk ) (Specialist Treatment Organisation for Perpetrators and Survivors of Sexual Offending) I provide specialised counselling services for those who have committed – or who might commit – sexual offences.

Professional support in this area can be hard to find; there are no NHS provisions, the legal system is designed to support victims and punish perpetrators, and little is done to understand or prevent these incidents, or the history which has shaped a person and led to the act. Working with these bodies, I believe that prevention is better than cure – and that punishments are a response to an incident but do little to prevent repeating the act if the circumstances which led to it aren’t dealt with properly.

When can I help?

Whether you have committed a criminal act, or have had ‘troubling thoughts’ and been tempted to commit acts which you know are criminal, or you have found yourself exposed to ever more extreme forms of pornography or are addicted to pornography, I am here to listen, and to help you to understand where these impulses have come from – and how you can control them, and protect yourself – and others – from these behaviours.

If it is a family member, partner, spouse, child or loved one who has been accused or convicted of these acts, I am also available to support you in coming to terms with the new world you find yourself in, which may have come as a complete shock, or may be something you’ve worried about for some time. With no judgement, just support and understanding, I can help you to process what has happened, and how you navigate through your own responses.

How do I help people accused of or charged with sexual offending?

The first thing I say to everyone who comes to me for help and support is that you are a human being: human beings are fallible, and make mistakes.

Remember that your past experiences and behaviours do not need to define who you are going forward into your future.

If you have received the ‘knock’ get in touch at your earliest convenience, the sooner we get to work, the more positive the outcome for you.

We will work together using ‘Action & Commitment therapy’, ‘Transactional Analysis’, ‘Family systems therapy’, ‘Person Centred therapy’ and ‘Gestalt therapy’ – collectively known as ‘integrative therapy’.

Additionally I am a neuro-linguistic programmer, soon to be a master practitioner; I will use all of my experience, knowledge, skill and ability to help you address your offending behaviour, understand its conception, and address matters arising from your past life experiences.

If you experienced sexual abuse as a child/adolescent, please let me know on your inquiry form.  This will not preclude you from receiving my support and assistance.

If for any reason you have not yet engaged with a solicitor, I can guide you toward a practice with expert knowledge and experience in working for those accused of sexual offending, and supporting them through the judicial process.  You can find contact information for this below in the ‘additional resources’ links.

It may be advisable for you to have a forensic psychologists report. Again this is something that I am able to provide information about.

Having this report is extremely useful, and solicitors, probation and courts respond more positively to those who have engaged with that process and followed the treatment plan contained within it.

I will provide you with a reading list of three books which will help you to fathom out how you have ended up where you are today.  I can also give you information about an online course which I recommend you undertake, this again adds a positive note to your court papers, and shows that you are serious about addressing your offending behaviour/s.

Sessions are 50 minutes and cost £50.00.  I do not offer concessions for these sessions, but there is a charity which may be able to fund some sessions, T&Cs apply and I can provide more details on this when you contact me to discuss your circumstances.

A report covering our work together is charged from £60.00 for a basic confirmation of sessions attended, to £150.00 for a breakdown of treatment actions and outcomes.  These reports go to your solicitor and probation officer, and form part of your defence in court.

I know that this is a difficult topic to seek help for. Please be assured that my professionalism, lack of judgement and integrity remain the same no matter what your circumstances; my role is to help you to understand your own history, and to change your own behaviours for a safer, happier future.

Contact me on cnslng@outlook.com or call me on 07849 037095 and we can arrange a time which suits you to explore what I can do to help you.

Additional resources for support: 

https://www.stoneking.co.uk/services/personal-law/criminal-law

(formally Mowbray woodwards) Bath.

If you, or someone you know have been accused or charged with a criminal offence, we can help. Our team of dedicated criminal law practitioners understand the Criminal Justice and Court system, from decades of experience and extensive training and casework. Our lawyers appear in Police Stations, Magistrates Court and Crown Courts all over the country day in, day out.

www.stoneking.co.uk

www.nacro.org.uk

Nacro is a national social justice charity operating in England and Wales.

Practical advice for people with criminal records.

Monday-Thursday 9am-5pm Friday 1pm-5pm

0300 123 1999

helpline@nacro.org.uk

Calls are free for those with inclusive call minutes, otherwise the call is charged at a local rate